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Feelings after Abortion

Relief, Gratitude, Empowerment

Relief

A woman may feel relief that the crisis of the unintended pregnancy has passed and she will be able to move forward in her life. A woman may feel happy that she is back to normal and free from nausea and fatigue from the pregnancy. She feels confident that she made the best decision she could given the circumstances.

It is not uncommon for a woman to feel relieved after an abortion; it is ok to feel relief after abortion. Relief can be mixed with other emotions, but it isn’t always.

Gratitude

A woman may feel grateful that she was able to have a safe and fully-funded abortion. She may wonder how she can feel so good after having an abortion and then she may feel guilty for feeling good.

If you are happy, relieved and grateful about your abortion, allow yourself that. There’s nothing wrong in that.

If you appreciate that you have reproductive choice, consider what you can do to ensure all women in Canada always have access to safe, fully-funded abortion. Also see the Abortion Rights Coalitions of Canada for more information.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness in life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity; it turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates vision for tomorrow.
~~ Melodie Beattie

Empowerment

Further than just relieved or grateful, a woman can experience a sense of empowerment after an abortion. It can have a positive effect on her life. A woman can feel in control of herself, her body and her life.

When a woman examines her life and decides she is not ready to parent, she may gain insight into what she wants to be different. She may decide to end her current relationship, find another job, return to school or move closer to her family or social support.

She may discover through this process that she doesn’t want any more children or any children. Or she may find a new appreciation and love for the children that she has now.

The process of the pregnancy and abortion can be an awakening experience that drives change.

Imagine a Woman
By Patricia Lynn Reilly, M.Div. © 1995

Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is woman.
A woman who honors her experience and tells her stories.
Who refuses to carry the sins of others within her body and life.
Imagine a woman who believes she is good.
A woman who trusts and respects herself.
Who listens to her needs and desires and meets them with tenderness and grace.
Imagine a woman who has acknowledged the past’s influence on the present.
A woman who has walked through her past.
Who has healed into the present.
Imagine a woman who authors her own life.A woman who exerts, initiates, and moves on her own behalf.
Who refuses to surrender except to her truest self and to her wisest voice.
Imagine a woman who names her own gods.
A woman who imagines the divine in her image and likeness.
Who designs her own spirituality and allows it to inform her daily life.
Imagine a woman in love with her own body.
A woman who believes her body is enough, just as it is.
Who celebrates her body and its rhythms and cycles as an exquisite resource.
Imagine a woman who honors the face of the Goddess in her changing face.
A woman who celebrates the accumulation of her years and her wisdom.
Who refuses to use her precious life energy disguising the changes in her body and life.
Imagine a woman who values the women in her life.
A woman who sits in circles of women.
Who is reminded of the truth about herself when she forgets.
Imagine yourself as this woman.